Coming Out of the Spiritual Closet
For many people on a spiritual awakening journey, one of the hardest parts isn’t sensing Spirit or learning intuitive tools — it’s being seen.
If you’ve ever kept your oracle cards tucked away, brushed off your spiritual nudges as “just coincidence,” or felt like you were living a double life, you might be in what’s called the spiritual closet.
In this blog, I’ll share what the spiritual closet is, why so many of us hide there, and practical steps to step out with confidence. This is a big part of my own mediumship journey, and I want you to know you’re not alone.
What Is the Spiritual Closet?
The “spiritual closet” is a metaphor for hiding your true spiritual self. It’s where we tuck away our intuitive abilities, downplay our spiritual practices, or avoid sharing our experiences with others.
People hide in the spiritual closet for many reasons:
Fear of judgment from family or friends
Fear of being rejected or misunderstood
Fear of being “wrong” or making a mistake
Fear of what life might look like if their gifts are real
The closet can feel like a place of safety. It shields us from criticism and protects us from uncomfortable conversations. But over time, it becomes restrictive. It keeps us small. It keeps us from fully living in alignment with who we are.
Why Do We Hide Our Spirituality?
There are surface-level reasons we might hide, like worrying what people will think, but the deeper truth often comes down to our own self-beliefs.
When I was in the spiritual closet, I wasn’t just afraid of others judging me — I was afraid of what I might believe about myself if I admitted that my mediumship gifts were real.
Some of the most common fears include:
Fear of judgment: “What if they think I’m weird?”
Fear of rejection: “What if my community doesn’t accept me?”
Fear of failure: “What if I get it wrong?”
Fear of success: “What if this is real? Then what?”
These fears create a loop of self-doubt and keep us stuck. But the longer we stay in hiding, the heavier it feels.
The Cost of Staying Hidden
When you keep your spiritual abilities locked away, they don’t disappear. In fact, the more you try to suppress them, the louder they often become.
For me, hiding led to:
Self-doubt: questioning my experiences, even when Spirit was clear
Anxiety: feeling disconnected from who I really am
Living a double life: every day, me versus spiritual me behind closed doors
Spirit doesn’t stop speaking when you ignore it. They keep nudging you, gently at first, then louder and louder, until you’re called to step out and own your gifts.
How to Step Out of the Spiritual Closet
If you’re ready to move toward freedom and authenticity, here are some gentle but powerful steps to help you come out of the spiritual closet:
1. Start with Yourself
Build trust with your intuition without seeking external validation. Journal your experiences. Notice the synchronicities. Allow yourself to believe in what you feel.
2. Find Safe Spaces
Join a spiritual development circle, online community, or local group where you can share openly with like-minded people. Community is essential on the awakening journey.
3. Take Baby Steps
You don’t need to announce, “I’m a psychic medium!” overnight. Start small. Share a card pull online, talk to one trusted friend, or simply allow yourself to be seen in little ways.
4. Practice Discernment
Not everyone will understand or accept your path — and that’s okay. Don’t waste energy convincing sceptics. Share with those who hold space and encourage you.
5. Celebrate Your Journey
Stepping out isn’t about one big moment. It’s about every brave step you take. Acknowledge your courage and honour the timing that feels right for you.
The Role of Shadow Work in Spiritual Awakening
Part of coming out of the spiritual closet is meeting yourself on a deeper level. That includes looking at old wounds, limiting beliefs, and low-vibrational energies we’ve held onto.
Shadow work helps us reintegrate parts of ourselves we’ve abandoned — the parts that fear rejection, failure, or ridicule. As we heal and bring compassion to those places, we free ourselves to stand more fully in our truth.
What Happens When You Step Out
Many people imagine fireworks, drama, or backlash when they share their spirituality openly. But for me, when I finally stepped out — not much happened.
Instead, I received messages of encouragement. Some people even said, “I didn’t know you did this — that’s amazing!”
Of course, not everyone will celebrate with you. But here’s the thing: stepping out isn’t about them. It’s about you choosing freedom, authenticity, and alignment with your soul.
And when you do, you’ll notice:
Your confidence grows
Your connection to Spirit deepens
You inspire others to embrace their own gifts
The Law of the Vacuum: Making Space for the New
One of the spiritual principles I love is the Law of the Vacuum. It says you can’t place something new in your life until you remove the old.
Coming out of the spiritual closet is like clearing away the old version of yourself — the one who hid, doubted, and minimised. By doing so, you create space for a new version of you to shine.
Final Thoughts: Your Journey Matters
If you’re in the spiritual closet right now, know this: you don’t have to stay there.
Your gifts are awakening for a reason. The world needs your light, your perspective, your voice. And every small step you take out of hiding frees not only you, but also inspires others to do the same.
So ask yourself: what’s one small step you can take today? Maybe it’s journaling. Maybe it’s sharing with a friend. Maybe it’s changing your profile picture to show your face.
Whatever it is — do it. Spirit can guide, nudge, and encourage you, but the action is yours to take.
You don’t have to come out of the spiritual closet overnight. But every step toward your truth is a step toward freedom.
